That is why people go to work and then have a home life.
If they dealt in cars all day and then thought about cars all night when they got home, went over and over which car to sell tomorrow, spent all there weekends thinking about cars, then the subject would become them, they have let nothing else in, this is why it is vital to take some breaks.
Again these trips became easier and easier, a shift back to me was certainly happening.
This is the reason so many people stay in the cycle because every instinct says ‘go home, it’s easier there’ or ‘try and fix this, this is not right’. Don’t scurry home or cancel appointments, run away from a friend to get away from a conversation etc, just go everywhere at will, anxious or not, it can’t and never will do you any harm. Don’t go over and over how you feel or feel the need to work it all out, disect it.
Read the posts and replies on the blog, add a little info elsewhere and then just get on with making the tea, seeing friends and being you. I would read some info and then go away and go over and over it, trying to figure this out, that out, testing myself, question this or that.
It truly was a vicious cycle and I had no hope of being part of the world around me, when my whole world was me.
This mainly comes through a better understanding of the subject, as it is far easier to be less impressed by certain symptoms of anxiety when you understand it far better.
I had being totally induldged in me and how I felt, my mind was totally shattered, it could take no more, it needed a break, the best way to do this was to DROP the subject and just go and live my life whilst taking how I felt with me.
Well there is no danger and there is no need to flee, it’s a false signal that we should simply move on from. I hope someone finds something in the above Paul For more help with anxiety visit For more information about my book ‘At last a life’ visit me on Twitter This entry was posted on Thursday, January 6th, 2011 at pm and is filed under Anxiety.